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How Pet Play Helps Me Escape Myself

Kinks and fetishes aren’t only about sex. They often have to do a lot with creating a safe space that allows you to escape reality — something we all need every now and then. Here’s what I’ve learned since I discovered the beautiful, kinky practice that is pet play.

My Job Is Great — and Exhausting

If I was asked to describe my life in one word, I’d say — busy. I work as a manager in a big company, and even though I love what I do, it’s quite challenging. Workdays are long, chaotic, and exhausting. When I come home in the evening, I can’t take work off my mind. I spend my free time thinking about the things I’ve done that day and everything I need to do tomorrow.

Don’t get me wrong — I still enjoy living my life. I’ve always been ambitious and had big plans for the future. Also, I’m very proud of my accomplishments!

However, I’m still a human being, and I need to escape my busy reality every now and then. In the past few years, I’ve tried everything — from partying every Saturday night to movie marathons, meditation, and yoga. Nothing helped!

Then, I came across a YouTube video that gave me a weird idea — I needed to enter a different mindset. If my own brain wouldn’t let me escape reality, I had to distance myself from it, right? That’s how I decided to learn more about pet play and to give it a try eventually!

Why Do We Love Pet Play?

When I was a kid, I loved acting like certain animals. I think this is something that kids all around the world enjoy doing. But the thing you may not know is that some adults love it too.

Personally, I enjoy it for two reasons. First, acting out an animal helps me distance myself from reality. It allows me to take my busy life off my mind. And secondly — I sometimes enjoy doing it with my partner for sexual purposes. I realized it’s a huge turn-on for me.

There’s actually a third reason too — it’s simply fun!

How Did I Discover Pet Play?

I didn’t come up with this idea entirely on my own. One day, while watching YouTube, I came across a video that talked about something called pet play. Out of curiosity, I played it. I was shocked to discover that people do this sort of thing.

At first, I thought it was really weird, but it still made a huge impression on me. When I gave it a second thought, I realized that this might be the perfect solution to my problem. Getting into the role of a certain animal, no matter how silly it may seem, is actually a great way to take a break from this crazy world!

That’s when I decided to learn more about pet play.

How Did It All Start?

Soon enough, I found out that there’s a whole community of pet play enthusiasts out there. I didn’t expect to learn that so many of us enjoyed doing this for various reasons.

Again, I came across this community online. At first, I didn’t have the nerve to go and meet them in real life. But I’ve watched a bunch of YouTube videos, read a lot of blog posts online, and finally decided to give it a try — on my own.

First, I had to choose the animal role I wanted to play. Since I’m a cat person, and I find their behavior intriguing, I decided to go with a kitten. So I started by getting stuff that I needed to create a costume and setting. I bought fluffy ears, tails, toys, and even a pet bed.

The first time I tried it, I did it alone in my room. It felt really strange, even creepy at first. However, there was just something about it that made me want to do it again.

It took me some time to realize that this was my thing. It comes naturally to me, and I enjoy it a lot.

Eventually, I gathered enough courage to go to an event hosted by a community of pet play lovers — and I loved it! I was happy to meet new people there, mostly because they were much more open-minded than my cold and formal colleagues. I kept going to these events and participating in various fun activities. At one of these events, I met my dom!

My Pet Play Experiences

The first session I did by myself was quite simple. I put on my ears and tail, placed squeezy toys I bought all over the place, and played with them the way a kitten would. As I’ve mentioned before, it felt weird at first but only until I managed to get into my role.

These initial attempts went pretty well, and when I started role-playing with my dom, I was ready. I learned how to get into the role of a kitten. However, this was a more complex and entirely different experience. It certainly changed the way I’d been playing my role before.

Until then, pet play was more about escaping reality and simply enjoying this other mindset I discovered. When I started playing with my dom, I figured there’s a sexual appeal to it. From then on, I started enjoying it even more. There are many pet play benefits I discovered along the way. This became my special safe place.

My Relationship With My Dom

Building a relationship always takes a lot of communication. In this case, talking about pet play and other aspects of our relationship was essential. So we set some rules and limits, as well as a safe word, and had a long conversation about our expectations, needs, and wishes.

It’s important to say that kitten play is just one aspect of our relationship. It is something both of us enjoy, and it certainly brings us closer to each other. However, there are other things we enjoy doing together.

We work on our relationship all the time. When it comes to kitten play, there’s always something new to try. So outside kinky sex, we have a relationship based on mutual trust and respect.

Why do we need mutual trust and respect? Find out in this Huffington Post Article.

In the end, all I can say is that pet play gave me much more than I ever hoped to gain from it.